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On this page I write about current topics that I find interesting in the world of mental health and wellbeing, as well as what's been going on in my head and heart over the past month. I hope you like it and find it useful - contact me with any comments, or post something on my Facebook page.
All therapists and counsellors need to go to supervision regularly, and my supervisor is in Witney; I’ve known her for a while now and so have got into a routine about parking the car in a certain car park, and having lunch in a certain café in time to see her. For some reason a couple of visits ago, I wandered down a different street and saw a different café and decided to try it. Last visit this meant I parked in a different car park, had lunch in a different café and found a whole street of shops I didn’t know existed. My experience of Witney was entirely different!
It made me think about how making a small change in our behaviour – or even our thinking – can lead us to have a different experience of life in general. One new thought can lead us down (or up) a different street in our brains and make us think about other things differently too. Small changes can lead to bigger things. Sometimes people come to therapy wanting to make big changes in their lives and then struggle when they find they can’t do that. I always pay attention to the small things that start to happen and celebrate them. Wanting too much too soon, and then being impatient with ourselves when that doesn’t happen, is the enemy of progress and change. Sometimes we can have a breakthrough, of course, and it’s great when that happens, but often it’s about incremental change, sneaking up on ourselves until we suddenly notice that we’ve changed without really realising it.
I completely love this video about how language shapes the way we think about things. It's about 15 mins long.
Quote of the Month
"Anyone who thinks that they are too small to make a difference has never tried to fall asleep with a mosquito in the room."
Christie Todd Whitman
It seems the time for reviewing codes of ethics is upon us. The BACP have recently published their new Framework, and the UKCP are now consulting on theirs. In case you are a UKCP member and didn’t know – now is the time to make your voice heard. Click here.
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