Welcome to May 2018's Pandora newsletter
I'm sad to say that this is my last monthly newsletter, in May, emailed out to you. The new changes in data protection law mean that the people who host my website can no longer supply this service. I will keep putting bits and pieces onto my website, so you are, of course, very welcome to check it now and then. Or you may prefer to "like" my Facebook page where I also post lots of things. Thank you for your subscriptions over the years - it's been great keeping in touch with you!
The yellow thing in the sky
The weather has occupied my thinking lately. I know it’s famously a British obsession, talking about the weather. I wonder why this is – presumably as it’s so changeable. Someone said to me the other day that the experts can’t seem to predict it, and that just as we get used to have some warmth then it disappears and back comes the cold and rain. We shrug our shoulders in a fatalist way and say “well it’s April”. Except it’s May. When the blue skies and sun make an appearance my spirits lift and hope comes back. Then the rain reappears and I feel my shoulders slump. There’s frantic gardening done in the periods of dry warmth and then I retreat back indoors to recover from the unexpected exercise.
It occurs to me that, of course, life is like this. We can have a good stretch when things go our way, we feel good and have a sense of achievement and hope. Then a different state comes along when just getting through things seems much harder, we get into conflict or are simply unhappy. The weather and life are a process aren’t they, that is constantly changing. No wonder we say sometimes that we just have to weather whatever comes our way.
I suppose there are a couple of ways to deal with this; the philosophical stance of not getting attached to any feelings and just treating all physical and emotional weather the same, and maintaining a sense of zen-like equilibrium throughout, or the letting go of that and rolling with the ups and downs of it, enjoying the good bits and also feeling the bad bits. For me personally I know I feel more alive in the roller coaster in life, so I think I’ll stick to that. I’d like to have some good weather for my holiday though…!
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An article on the medical approach to depression (be aware you’ll need to provide your email to the Times)…It's called "The depression epidemic and why the medical profession is failing patients".
Thanks to all those who came to the Pesso Boyden day in April - we had a good day exploring and supporting. I very much enjoyed it - it's a wonderful, effective method of doing therapy and I love using it. I'm sure Deb and I will be running another one soon, so I will let you know when that is.
Quote of the Month
Sunshine is delicious, rain is refreshing, wind braces us up, snow is exhilarating; there is really no such thing as bad weather, only different kinds of good weather.
You may be aware that the General Data Protection Regulation comes into act this month, to replace the Data Protection Act. There is a fair bit of what I can only call hysteria online by counsellors and therapists all worried that they have to go to long lengths to avoid heavy fines. I would recommend checking with your own professional body rather than listening to people online, who might have misinformation about it. If you’re in UKCP, like me, here's the link. If you work for an organisation, they should be considering this and will have their own guidelines for you to follow, of course.
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